Dump 18: What If You Settled for Less?
5 lessons for Building, breaking and re-building the dream life you want
Hey Besties💜,
Welcome to April! I hope you’re as excited as I am for this month because a lot of good things are going to happen!
I know that the last time you heard from me was last month. That’s because I decided not to settle for less. In January 2025, I started a consulting agency, and it took quite a lot of my time to create the stability and system that any emerging business needs.
I even had to hire a lean-dream team to buy back my time and share a little of my time writing to you–gosh! I missed sending you dumps! Thankfully, I’m here now, and since I’m here, I might as well tell you the five most significant lessons I’ve learned in three months of attempting to build my dream life away from my comfort zone. Grab a pen and paper to jot ‘finz’ down…innit!
The version of you that gets everything you desire is just a series of bold decisions away.
-The Chief💜
What If You Decided To Settle For Less?
When the ocean settles, it signifies calm and maybe rest from the hard job of waves and tides. However, we aren’t the ocean, and we couldn’t ever be, so the comforting concept of settling is a dangerous place to be.
Q1 is over, and Q2 is in full gear. If you had a terrible couple of months, this dump is for you. I understand how hard it is to juggle survival, peak adulthood, and everything. I’m currently there, you’re not alone. I have learned some lessons from the boisterous wind in my life, and I hope this guides your second quarter of the year. Let’s get into it…
1. Accept The Discomfort
Building the life I want has come with a deep level of discomfort, pain, and a burdensome sense of responsibility. Sometime last week, I sank into my sofa, tears in my ears, and I kept asking the same question over and over again. “Who sent me?” How did I think that building a business and pursuing global impact was the right thing to do? Why can’t one ‘odogwu’ just take me off this career woman path? sighs..
Well, these deep reflective moments have taught me that the discomfort settles, however you show it. If yapping about it without trying to keep moving was one way, best believe that the discomfort impacts your life negatively and just aggravates itself even further.
On the other hand, if you accept the discomfort, the patience and capacity to move on from the things you have no control over become even easier. You just gotta accept the discomfort, get comfortable with being uncomfortable–that’s the only way to move ahead.
2. The World Will Adjust
Well, I’ll let this image speak this truth!
Back to it, shall we?… You’re too worried about a world that’s too self-absorbed with itself.
One of the lessons I have learnt is not to worry as much about what the world thinks about the things I’m doing to build my dream life. The video content, showing up authentically, scheming, strategizing, and everything else in between.
The world doesn't really care. There are over 8 billion people in the world and you’re not relevant in the grand scheme of things. Get over yourself and focus on the work that builds your dream life. Only then will you become quite relevant; only then would the world care. Harsh but true..
3. Perfection is a Dangerous Farce
The only reason you’ll be stuck in a spot and struggle with building your dream life is when you think perfection is a tool for validation. The beauty of building anything from scratch is the slow burn and burst of emotions from watching dust become a high-rise pedestal. You miss out on one of the most beautiful forms of emergence when you’re focused on it being all perfect.
The dust, the shitty video, the ugly images, the shabby process is how kids become kings and queens. Your struggle for perfection is a threat to your process and your becoming. It took me a long while to learn this, but now that I’ve learned this, you could never make me spend my time waiting for perfection.
The beauty of your dream life isn’t in the finished look, it’s in the raw, uncut stone and wet sand.
4. Your Biggest Breakthrough is in The Small Steps
You might think your dream life will be built on one big breakthrough, but in reality, it’s the sum of small, consistent actions that no one claps for. It’s the emails sent, the calls made, the hours spent refining your craft when no one is watching.
It’s the late nights of pain and consistency, fear and uncertainty, doubts, and zero motivation. The cumulative effect is the trigger for success.
The grind isn’t always glamorous, and some days will feel painfully slow. But those tiny steps—ones that seem insignificant—are what create unstoppable momentum. The people who win aren’t the ones who wait for massive leaps; they’re the ones who stack small wins until their dream life is undeniable.
5. You Become Before You Arrive
You don’t just wake up one day living your dream life. You grow into it. It’s not about chasing something out there—it’s about becoming the person who naturally attracts and sustains the life you want.
At first, this might feel frustrating. You’ll wonder why things aren’t happening fast enough. You’ll question if you’re doing something wrong. But over time, you’ll realize that the delay isn’t punishment—it’s preparation. The dreams you have require a version of you that’s stronger, wiser, and more resilient.
If deep down, you still see yourself as someone who struggles, someone who isn’t good enough, or someone who always falls short, you’ll keep making choices that reinforce that identity. But the moment you start seeing yourself differently—as someone who builds, wins, and creates—you’ll notice your actions begin to shift.
The life you want isn’t just about external success. It’s about internal transformation. You become the person first, and then the life follows.
Do You Still Want to Settle for Less?
What if you let fear win? What if you let doubt make your decisions? What if you convinced yourself that "good enough" was all you deserved?
Would you ever stop wondering about the life you could have had? The person you could have become? The dreams you could have brought to life?
Settling feels safe—until it doesn’t. One day, you’ll wake up and realize that the comfort of playing small was the biggest risk you ever took. Because nothing haunts more than knowing you could have reached for more but chose not to.
But now, you have a choice. You can either keep shrinking, keep waiting, keep convincing yourself that you’ll try someday—or you can decide that today is the day you stop settling.
So, do you still want to settle for less? Or are you finally ready to give your dream life the fight it deserves?
With Love💜
Precious (Chief Contributor)